Hi! How are you all doing? I’m doing pretty fabulous! Other than the fact that my blog just recently turned 1 and we have an ongoing $250 Nordstrom gift card giveaway (don’t forget to enter if you haven’t yet), I had updated my blog’s logo to convey what my site is really all about. I immediately fell in love with it the moment I saw it! What do you think? This update wouldn’t have been possible if not for my dear friend, Haydee Gusler. She also did social media banners to match the new logo! How awesome is she? Her graphic designs are impressive and she also does motion graphics! If you need any graphic work done, she’s the right woman for the job!!! Check out all her amazing designs here. Anyway, since this is my first post after celebrating my first blog anniversary, I want it to be about something I love. Today, I will be sharing why This Is us is so relatable for everyone; it doesn’t matter if you’re a mom, dad, wife, husband, daughter, or son; you’ll surely get hooked once you watch it.
I know I’m probably late to the This Is Us game; in fact, I’m one season behind. But still, it’s better late than never, right? I took off work one day because I wasn’t feeling well, my husband went to work and both kids went to school. I had the house to myself; I couldn’t sleep and I was bored. I needed something to do but I’m trying to keep myself from doing any blogging work because I needed to rest. So I decided I wanted to see what the hype is all about This Is Us. I’ve watched a couple of episodes and I instantly found myself crying. And it wasn’t the light kind where only a couple of tears fell; it was full on crying with sobbing and nose getting congested kind. And there I was; hooked on This Is Us. I think you’ll love it too; because of the reasons below.
Disclaimer: If you haven’t seen it; I don’t think you should be reading this. There’s going to be A LOT of spoilers in this post!
Because We’ve All Struggled With Our Insecurities Like Kate
Let’s face it, at some point in our lives, we’ve all had insecurities. Whether it be our height, our weight, our skin tone, parts of our body like our thighs, our hips, our feet, or something else; we’ve all been there.
As for me, it’s a combination of all these things and more. I’ve always wished I was taller, maybe then I’d get to pursue my dream to become a model. I’ve always wished my skin was fairer; so for the longest time, I’ve been using whitening products to help me achieve that goal of mine. And then I used to be so conscious about being too thin so I wanted to gain a little bit of weight; and then when I started gaining weight after having 2 kids, I hated that none of my clothes fit me anymore so I wanted to lose all those weight. And my list goes on.
As you can see, these insecurities of mine didn’t stop. It seems as if after I get what I thought I wanted, I’d end up wanting something else. For Kate, it is her weight. It has always been her weight. During some of the episodes, I actually got frustrated with Kate because it was all about her weight for her. And I didn’t like how because of her insecurity, she’s missing out on something great. She couldn’t realize how great of a guy Toby is because she was always focusing on losing her weight. Don’t get me wrong, I do understand how insecurities like this can consume you easily; I just didn’t like how it’s affecting her life.
After watching several episodes of This Is Us and seeing how Kate lets her insecurities affect her life, I learned a very valuable lesson. And that is you shouldn’t let your insecurities consume you; because you just won’t know what you’re going to miss because of it. Kate almost missed out on love because she was too focused on her weight; but I was so happy when she finally decided to really let Toby in her life. I know it might be harder than it sounds; but we should really just stop criticizing ourselves and learn to embrace all our imperfections.
We recently went to Massanutten Waterpark. Part of me was excited for the trip because I knew the kids would love it; but another part of me was dreading it because that would mean I’d have to wear swimsuit. I’ve been wearing my swimsuits with shorts for the longest time; because I just don’t feel comfortable with my body anymore after having 2 kids. But because of what I learned from Kate in This Is Us, I stopped caring about what others would think of me and finally let go. I ditched the shorts and focused on the time I was spending with my family while confidently wearing my swimsuit. It was so much fun and liberating!
If other people would make fun of me because my body isn’t perfect (for them), then that really doesn’t make it my problem, right? It’s theirs! And as long as my family, just like Kate’s does, loves and accepts me for who I am, and thinks that I’m awesome, then nothing else really matters. Besides, this body, even though full of stretchmarks and cellulite, is what gave me my 2 precious little ones; I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Because At Some Point, It Was Also Hard For Us To Move On Like Dr. K
We’ve seen how Dr. Katowski goes through his day – eat breakfast while talking to his late wife’s empty chair, still keeping her stuff after she’s gone for over a year; and his life – declining a dinner invitation from a friend, telling that same friend how he couldn’t seem to take his wedding ring off, telling his son how he’s never going to move on. And then we saw how Dr. K broke down while visiting her late wife’s grave and telling her how much he misses being with her.
Later on, after Jack and Rebecca lost one of their children, Dr. K opened up to Jack about how they lost a baby too and that’s how he got into the profession. He said something about taking life’s sourest lemon and making it into something resembling lemonade. This conversation ignited a change in Dr. K which made him get rid of his late wife’s stuff from their house.
Just like Dr. K, at some point in our lives, we’ve all lost someone so dear to us; maybe not the way Dr. K lost his wife, but it did break us. It hurts so bad, it had shaken us to our core. Friends and family had been telling us it’s time to move on; and of course, we knew it is time. But we just couldn’t; no matter how much we want to. And then just like in This Is Us, something eventually happened that would FINALLY cause us to be stronger and let everything go. And the next thing we know; we finally did it. We’ve finally moved on.
Because We Aren’t Perfect Moms Like Rebecca
In one episode, after scrambling to make the perfect birthday cupcake for Jack on his birthday, Rebecca had a moment with her triplets and had a very beautiful speech:
“Hey, little bugs. I’m sorry I’ve been complaining so much lately. ‘Cause I really enjoyed having you as my sidekicks this year. You have really great taste in music, by the way. (chuckles) I guess I’m just, um… I’m a little… overwhelmed. Not about meeting you guys… I can’t wait to meet you guys. I know I’m getting a little ahead of myself, but I can’t wait to make Halloween costumes for you, which is weird, because I’m not a big Halloween person. (giggles softly) I’ve been acting out lately. I’ve been terrible to your dad, who is just… perfect. He is so perfect. Oh, my God, you guys are going to freak out when you see how awesome your dad is. Honestly, you’re gonna be… huge fans. I think I’m nervous about you guys meeting me. I don’t know how much you can tell from in there, but I am not gonna be the perfect mom you’ve probably been dreaming about. You guys dream, right? I think so. I’m impatient. And I’m… stubborn. And, uh… (sniffs) … I stole an Abba-Zaba bar from the grocery store in fourth grade. And I’m… terrified that I’m gonna make a hundred wrong decisions and ruin the chances that you guys have to lead the perfect lives that you deserve, but… I will protect you fiercely. And I will always sing to you when you can’t sleep. And I will always be excited to hear you laugh. I bet you guys are gonna have wildly different laughs, huh? (giggles) I love you so much it hurts, and I haven’t even met you yet. It’s crazy. Mm. So, I guess what… I’m trying to say is, um… you are gonna have to take the good with the bad when it comes to me. (sniffs) So, now that you know all of this, are you still… excited to come and join me out here, huh? I’ll take that as a yes.”
Just like Rebecca, admittedly, I’m not perfect. I know I have my flaws; and I know I have to work on them. I’ve been trying but somehow I’d always end up exactly where I was before. Not a day goes by that I won’t feel bad about myself, because at some point during the day, I would have gotten upset only because my daughter decided to withhold her poop or that my son couldn’t stop whining all day. But I constantly forgive and tell myself that the next day, I’ll try again to be the best mom that I can be.
And just like Rebecca, I’m scared. I’m scared that I’m going to make A LOT of wrong decisions in my children’s lives; I’m scared that whatever I do will have a HUGE impact in their lives; I’m scared that I might not be doing enough for them. But just like any moms do, I will always be there for them; I will protect them with my own life; I will fight for them; and I will love them in the most beautiful way I know how.
Because We All Wish We’d End Up With Someone Like Jack
In one of the episodes, where Rebecca was really mean to Jack and forgot his birthday, Jack went out with his best friend Miguel who took him to a golf course. Miguel introduced him to a couple of his dad friends who loves golf as much as he did. And they told Jack how much he is going to love golf because one game would usually take 5 hours; and for them, it’s 5 blissful hours of them peacefully playing golf and not having their wives tell them they’re doing something wrong. And then Jack said something remarkable:
“I just keep thinking about my wife and how I just want to get home to her, hang out with her, make sure she’s okay. Which is crazy, because she’s at her absolute worst right now. I mean, like, Exorcist level bad. But I still don’t want to escape her. Or my future vomiting, crap-riddled kids. I just, I want more time with them. I want to freeze time with them, so that I can get a little bit more.”
And then he left rushing home to Rebecca. How touching is that? Rebecca is at her absolute worst because of her pregnancy but Jack still chose to be with her.
What about that time that Jack sold his beloved Chevelle and swallowed his pride and went to his abusive father to ask help for “gambling money” to buy a house for their growing family?
Or that time on episode 17 when Heather came on to Jack while at a bar; but Jack told her to stop because he’s a married man and she’s embarrassing him and herself. And then he walked out and decided to fix things up with Rebecca.
And then, of course, I won’t forget that time on episode 18 when Jack was about to leave to stay with Miguel after Rebecca told him to, so they can take a breath after their big fight. Just before he left, he told Rebecca
“You’ve asked me a question before, you wonder what I love about you now, So I’m gonna start with the obvious. I love the mother that you are. I love that you are still the most beautiful woman in any room and that you laugh with your entire face. I love that you dance funny, not sexy, which makes it even sexier, but most of all, I love that you are still the same woman who all those years ago ran out of a blind date because she simply had to sing. You’re not just my great love story, Rebecca, you are my big break. And our love story? I know it may not feel like it right now, baby, but I promise you, it’s just getting started.”
Didn’t we all wish to be with someone like him? I know I did! We probably didn’t end up with someone exactly like Jack who would do the exact same things for us; but I’m pretty sure we ended up with someone who would do everything for us, in their own special way. Someone who will stand by our side during the hardest times, someone who will choose to be there for us no matter how difficult we, and our relationship, can sometimes get.
I know, sometimes I can be difficult to deal with. I worry a lot, I get stressed out and frustrated easily, I am very emotional and express myself with words (and yell even if I don’t want anyone yelling at me), and I get upset about trivial stuff; but still my husband had chosen and has been choosing to be with me every step of the way. Of course, there are times he’d get frustrated with me as well and we’d argue; but after everything has been said and done, we’d still choose us. We’d choose to move forward and love each other, including our imperfections. And he helps and guides me in my quest to be a better person and the best mom that I could be. And that’s just one of the reasons why I think he’s perfect for me.
Because We’ve All Had Drama In Our Lives
All throughout the first season of This Is Us, we’ve seen how the characters are struggling with different issues in their lives. From Kevin wanting to do something more in his career; to Kate having her life revolve around her weight; to Randall trying to find William, his biological father; and then later on finding out that his mom, Rebecca knew him his entire life but kept it from him.
In real life, it’s the same thing. Almost anyone I know are either undergoing or have gone through a drama in their lives. In fact, I honestly think that anyone’s life wouldn’t be complete without any drama. Whether it be as intense as holding onto a lifelong grudge for someone; or as simple as not getting along too well with someone for a certain phase in your life. We’ve all been there!
In all honesty, it’s one of the constants in my life. Sure, there isn’t always a drama in my life; however, it comes and goes. Just when you think everything’s going great, that’s when life is going to surprise you with another challenge that you have to overcome. I’ve been through a lot, and I’m sure you probably do too; from losing good friends to almost losing my Mom.
This Is Us reminds us what life really is; it’s full of challenges and filled with drama. But at the same time, it also shows us that real life is full of love, laughter, hope, and surprises. And at the end of the day, all that really matters is that we live our lives to the fullest; laugh as loudly as we possibly could; love as intensely as we could; and that we keep pushing forward no matter what life throws at us. As long as we’re surrounded by family, either those we were born with or those that we chose for ourselves, everything will work out in the end.
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