Be Thankful For The Bad Things In Life

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It’s almost Thanksgiving and you’ve probably seen a lot of posts about being thankful for all the blessings they’ve received, their family and friends. While I am also absolutely grateful for all these things and more, this year, I want to focus on the bad things that happened to me. It’s not every day you get to hear someone say “Be thankful for the bad things in your life”. It’s hard to be thankful for them when they hurt you, when they make you live your life in fear, when they make you angry, or when they leave you devastated.

Let’s be realistic here! I am absolutely aware that bad things happen everywhere, every single day. Whenever the news is on or when I check my Facebook feed, I always see horrible things happening everywhere. Accidents, crimes, tragedies, attacks, or something that you and your family are going through or have gone through. I get it, it’s scary and it makes you feel all sorts of emotions you shouldn’t be feeling. And I can’t blame you! To be honest, I am scared too! I am scared for my kids especially with all the violence that’s frequently happening! I truly hope that all these terrible things that are happening around us will just stop. But they probably won’t. And given that, we can’t always live in fear and anger. We can’t keep on questioning why things have to happen all the time. We must not wallow in sadness. It’s time to start looking at these bad things at a different way; maybe then, we will realize why we should be thankful for them. It’s our first step to move on and recover from these bad things.

Today, I am sharing some of the bad things that happened to me; the ones that made me feel a roller coaster of emotions; the ones that shook me to my core.

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My Mom Was Abducted

Last year, my mom was asked to meet a person (Woman 1) she hasn’t met yet by someone she truly trust (Woman 2). But she ended up being abducted by Woman 1, along with 3 accomplices; and as it turned out, Woman 2 was the mastermind. They tried to extort money from her and had called my dad multiple times to ask him to deliver the money to a certain place; but they were unsuccessful so they dumped her to a deserted place. Luckily, someone helped her out and brought her to a police station where I was able to get in touch with her. When I called her at the police station and I heard her voice, I couldn’t explain what I felt. I wanted to scream and cry; I felt angry; but at the same time, I was also really happy and relieved that she’s alive.

As you can imagine, I was terrified and worried while she was gone. I felt really helpless because I was so far away; I felt really bad that I couldn’t do anything for her. I wanted to hug her so bad, comfort her, and be there for her, but I can’t. It’s one of the downsides of living thousands of miles away from your family.

After the incident, as we were talking, it sounded like Woman 2 was also expecting my dad to be with my mom when she met Woman 1. From then on, I feared for their lives. My husband and I arranged for my parents to fly here as soon as they could. I wanted them here with me and I didn’t want them to ever leave.




There is so much to be thankful for when that happened. Of course, I’m beyond grateful that my mom was able to survive what happened to her unscratched. Plus, the fact that things started falling into their proper places so that they could go here was another thing to be thankful for. And knowing what kind of person Woman 2 really is early in the process saved us before she has done something worse (maybe to me or my kids). She was planning to visit us and stay at our house before that happened. Just imagining what could have happened while she was here is making me cringe.

Because of what happened, I discovered a whole new love for my mom. Of course, I do love her even before it happened. But we also had a huge misunderstanding that got really messy because of Woman 2. We stopped talking for over a year because the pain she made me feel was just too much. Back then, she made it seem like she didn’t really want to be in our lives, in my kids’ lives. We eventually talked again a few months after my son was born but we didn’t really resolve our past issues. But it wasn’t the same, I knew in my heart that I was still hurting.

If that didn’t happen, I wouldn’t have made an effort to make her feel how special she truly is. I wouldn’t have opened myself up to her again. I wouldn’t have made an effort for us to be together again. I wouldn’t have wanted to let her in my kids’ lives. I wouldn’t have asked them to live here with us.

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We Lost My Daughter During A Beach Trip

Three months ago, during my birthday week, my husband and I decided to go on a day trip to a beach near us. We went to Sandy Point State Park. It was an hour drive from where we live. We were having an amazing time until my daughter got lost. We lost her for a few minutes; but thankfully, one lady got her back to me – safe and unharmed.

Because of what happened, my husband and I learned the hard way that we shouldn’t let them out of our sight. We realized that it only takes a second for them to disappear. And if we’re not lucky, she could have disappeared in our lives forever.

Losing her at the beach had also taught me to REALLY appreciate everything I have. I started to recognize that having my patience tested (all the time) is a blessing because that meant I still have 2 kids to raise and take care of. It made me realize that even if I am always exhausted and stressed out, I am still fortunate because both my kids are with me. And even if sometimes, I can’t even enjoy showering or my bathroom breaks, or if I don’t get some time to myself, there’s nowhere I’d rather be than with this chaotic small family of mine.

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My Son Had Anaphylactic Shock

My son has a severe peanut allergy. Last week, he had accidentally eaten a Reese’s peanut butter cup the kids got from Halloween. It wasn’t until around 25 minutes later that he started struggling to breathe. I wasn’t even aware that he was already having anaphylactic shock. Good thing we were able to administer his EpiPen shot at the right time and rushed him to an Emergency Care unit; or else, it would have been too late.

My husband and parents would always tell me that my favorite child is my daughter. And I would ALWAYS disagree with them. I would always tell them I don’t have a favorite child; and I would ALWAYS try my best not to favor anyone. If I needed to buy my daughter something, I would always make sure that I also get one for my son; or if my daughter hit my son, I would always make sure that I talk to her about it and try my best for it not to happen again.

But that night opened my eyes to what I couldn’t see before. I started to see what they were talking about. I am more affectionate with my daughter – I hug her all the time and tell her I love her; as soon as I hear her cry, I would rush towards her. It’s not that I don’t hug my son or that I don’t tell him I love him; I do both things to him. It’s just not as frequent as I would do it to my daughter. It’s not that I don’t comfort him when he cries; of course, I do. He is a very sensitive child and would cry ALL THE TIME. I guess that also played a part why I wasn’t as alarmed when he starts to cry; because he cries for just about anything. So in my mind, he’s just being his usual self. These don’t mean that I love him any less; I love him as much as my daughter! I just wasn’t as expressive with him as I am with my daughter; and I don’t know why.



Seeing him struggling to breathe and then finding out later on that it would have been too late for him had we not given him his EpiPen shot at the right time, made me realize that I shouldn’t waste any second to express my love for him. Things could have gone tragic that day, and I would have missed all the chances I had to show him just how much I love him. That night, I promised myself that I will tell him and show him how much I love him, every chance I get.

The last time we went to see my son’s allergist, I asked if there’s anything that could be done to treat his allergy. I was told the only thing we could do is wait and run tests every year to find out how he’s doing with it. It doesn’t sound reassuring, does it? But because of what happened, and me writing about it, some moms have reached out to me and and told me about sublingual immunotherapy that’s being done by Allergy Associates of La Crosse for 45 years now. Based on what I read so far, sublingual immunotherapy is supposed to treat the allergy by administering allergy drops to the patient. I still have to do some more reading and research about it; and I still have to contact them to find out if there’s a possibility that my son’s peanut allergy can be treated. But I wouldn’t have found out about this, if that didn’t happen.

These bad things could have ended tragically; and I could have lost the 3 of the most important people in my life. But I AM SO GRATEFUL that I didn’t; and that I am given a second chance to show them how much they mean to me and tell them how much I love them. And even though I wouldn’t wish any of these to anyone, not even to worst enemy, I’m thankful they happened. Because if not for these experience, I wouldn’t have learned all the lessons I learned, and I wouldn’t have realized all the things I did. These bad things helped me grow as a person.

I know that these bad things are maybe nothing compared to the things that you are going through or have gone through. But I hope somehow, you found comfort in my stories and the positive things that came out from it. And I hope you find the strength you need to get up and push forward. If you’re not yet ready to do it, that’s fine as well. I certainly wish that someday you get to see the good in all the things that you have gone through, and be thankful for them; no matter how hurt, devastated, and scared you feel right now.

One thing that has been really helping me when I don’t understand the things that were happening to me is my faith that things, regardless if they’re good or bad, happen for a reason. And whatever that reason is, it’s always for the best. Most of the time, things would always work out the way they should.

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I wish you and your family a wonderful Thanksgiving!

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  • Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry to hear what had happened to your poor mum. That must have been extremely scary for her. I’m glad to hear that it has strengthened your relationship with her. I do agree with you, it is good to be thankful for the bad things, as they are the things that make us wiser and stronger.
    Lennae xxx
    http://www.lennaesworld.com

  • Candy Kage

    Come on people nobody can always have the good things always happening to them. Life wouldn’t be a balance if bad stuff didn’t happen. Can’t always get the shiny trophy. How would we grow.

  • Lacy Blanchard Ngo

    Oh my goodness, I have no words. I am so sorry you had to go through the of the experiences you shared. I am inspired by the fact that you can see the lessons and keep a positive attitude after expereincing these events.

    • Thank you, Lacy! We have to move forward and always see the good in everything no matter what happens. 🙂

  • Kristen

    Oh gosh, I am so glad that everything ended up ok in the end, but how scary. Great tips and lessons to share!

    xoxo, Kristen
    http://www.theglamorousgal.com

  • Kiarna Jayne Welch Gibbs

    omg! I am soo sorry for what has happened. You truly are amazing to look at the positive aspects throughout all these situations! Well done for remaining so strong!

    – Kiarna Jayne xo
    http://kiarnajayne.com/

  • Wow what a moving post. Thank you for sharing your experiences. God really has a wonderful way of turning a horrible and scary situation into good. I’m so happy to hear they were all happy endings. We really do have a lot to be grateful for even the bad things.

  • thenuria rose

    I cannot think the torment that you went through, knowing that a loved one has been kidnapped ! I’m sorry, and you are correct, we have to give thanks for bad experiences and just like you did ” look the good in them ”
    Thank you for sharing !

  • tabithablue

    Oh my goodness, such traumatic events and I can’t even believe how I would feel either! SO thankful she is okay and I agree, any circumstance that shakes you like that gives an entirely new perspective.

  • Devon Butler

    Girl I can’t believe this….you’re so strong and such an inspiration

    xx Devon

  • Karissa Ancell

    I think that it is so important to be thankful for the bad things. It can take awhile to get to the place of not being upset and hurt by an event and being thankful. When you get there though I think it helps you heal to see the blessings in it. I’m glad your son is ok that sounds so terrifying.

  • Ilene Blessing Modica

    Thank you so much for sharing. I know it must have been difficult to write but sometimes sharing is the best therapy. Very inspirational. Thanks.

  • Meredith

    OMG Belle I had no idea about your mom!! I’m so so sorry, but this post is so amazing and beautifully written! You’re so strong!!! xoxoxo

  • Meg

    There have been many things in my life that I would NEVER want to go through again, but I’m grateful for what I’ve learned from them. Hugs to you and your family!

  • Monika Grunwald

    So true! Not only on Thanksgiving, but every day I try to be thankful for all the blessings in my life!

  • Lyndsey Piccolino

    I love this!! We can rejoice and praise in our struggles and come out all the better for it!

  • Asia Fogle

    Great Post. I can honestly say I needed to read this. Often I get so wrapped up in whats going on in my life that forget to remember all the good I have.

  • Thanks for being so open and sharing this! We never know gratitude until we are faced with challenges in life.
    xx, Maria

  • Babies to Bookworms

    Those are both such terrifying situations! I’m so glad you are at the point where you can find positives, and I’m so glad that everyone is okay!

  • Katie @ Book Ink Reviews

    How terrifying! I’m glad you’ve found the silver lining and hope your Thanksgiving is safe and allergy free.

  • My Veteran Woman Life

    How funny because I just listed this topic as a post idea for my own blog! I am so thankful for every bad thing that has happened in my life (and there have been some doozies!) because each one has taught me something and something good did come from each thing. You may not realize it at the time but, if you really try, you can find a silver lining even in the worst of situations!

  • Nita Okoye

    You are Amazing! that is a great attitude towards life.. keep shinning Belle

  • Lynn White

    Beauty for ashes….it’s always hard to see when you’re in it, the lesson you’ll learn later. This is such a great post!

  • Kari Chalene

    I love your positive perspective on this.. I totally get what you’re saying! You learn valuable thins from the bad things that happen and everyone is dealt their cards. I’m glad everyone is safe in your world. <3

  • Jodie Ward

    Sometimes we have to realize that the bad things in life can only make us stronger. Great post!

  • angelmira29

    There is definitely a lesson to be learned from every bad thing that happens to us in life. It is actually prompted me to start a thankfulness journal!

  • Delayna Denaye

    Happy thanksgiving coming up!
    XO
    Delayna
    http://www.delaynadenaye.com

  • Belle, I loved this. It’s so true that the hardest, scariest moments in life end up humbling us and making us so very grateful about things we might not have realized we took for granted before. Such a good read. I’m glad every one of these instances turned out okay and that you were able to reflect on them in a positive way!! Xo

  • Sometimes being thankful for the hard times is just as important as being thankful for the good times. Everything happens for a reason 😉 Hope you and your family have a Happy Thanksgiving! xo Jana | http://www.janastyleblog.com

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  • I’m glad to know it helped you!

  • Thank you for sharing your story, Bethany!

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