GUEST POST: ADHD & Rainy Days – Tips & Tricks For Life & Play

Today’s guest author is Shiyi Zang. Shye splits her free time between writing the novel that was supposed to be completed in 2015, doodling in her sketchbook and mastering the fine art of Cup Noodles. She is going to tell us all about parenting a child with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).

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To think the nightmare ends with beams of yellow sunlight is to believe that the children are brushing their teeth without screams or tears. And to think that rainy days are peaceful is to dream of their preoccupation with colouring books and classic movies. Raising a child to their full potential is a consuming and rewarding journey. There are good days and there are bad days, then there are rainy days where nothing goes right. For parents of children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), those days demand them to be everything and everywhere. At times, it feels as if the sky will never stop thundering, but there are many ways to bring out the sun.

Bring The Sunshine

That’s what we all need on a good day much less a bad one. It’s easy to get into a mood and lash out with the lightning when feeling overwhelmed. Negativity breeds like dark clouds, and when raising children with ADHD, that simply will not service. Nagging tongues only begets rolling eyes as children with ADHD respond much better to reward than punishment. Tackle daily obstacles with a positive spin and tailor routines to adapt to their needs. For example, rather than a full 5 minutes of time-out, offer them a chance to reduce the time to 3 minutes if they are willing to sit quietly without complaint. A compliment or two afterwards to encourage like behaviour will instill a sense of pride and accomplishment. Their need for warm, positive attentions is truly the greatest leverage.

Grow Together

A little rain can bring out the most beautiful flowers and the same goes for parent-child relationships. Have a good time, learn new skills and grow together. Focus on activities that are new to both of you and discover what works best for the team. There is no magic cure for children with ADHD, only time and patience, and trial and error. Take a holistic approach to daily activities – work on colourful puzzles together to improve concentration and problem solving skills while practicing relaxation therapy. Just as children with ADHD grow, learn and adapt, so must the parents. As a result, the whole family benefits.

Nurture Their Strengths

It’s easy to be distracted by the hustle and bustle of everyday life and neglect the simple truths. With enormous and unforgiving social stigma enforcing the notion that children with ADHD are rambunctious, misbehaving and even hostile, it is crucial to challenge the popular belief. Slow down and take the time to reflect on their strengths. The common approach is to sign them up for sports or other physically demanding activities, but there are numerous other ways to take advantage of their natural curiosity and energy in a cozy environment. Legos and small invention kits are perfect for their active minds and restless fingers while improving their fine motor skills and hand-eye coordination. If they enjoy playing pranks and being the center of attention, harness their flair for dramatics with magic tricks. Not only does it develop their ability to follow directions without becoming easily frustrated, but cultivates confidence and overall self-worth.

Spring Showers Not Thunderstorms

No one likes being caught in a thunderstorm without warning and while life is unpredictable and inconsistent, training children with ADHD should never be. In fact, it is vitally important to maintain daily structures and expectations to guide them through their developmental years and beyond. Although parents of children with ADHD need to be flexible, committing to one strategy or technique such as early bedtimes for dinner tantrums, achieves better results than heated negotiations and promises of desserts. Just as farmers rely on steady spring showers to bring their crops to fruition, children with ADHD require consistent attention and effort to reach their full potential.

Colorful Creativity

There is no better ending to a rainy day than a colourful rainbow across the sky. The world is cast in a bright new light filled with promise and hope. For children with ADHD, it is important to encourage them to be themselves and define their own potential in brilliant, untraditional ways. Easier said than done, parents should be attentive to their children’s unique thoughts and behaviour and tailor standard parenting techniques to each individual child. Only then can they sit back and watch them shine.

At the end of the day, time spent together is time well-spent. However, despite the inevitable satiation, perhaps the greatest misconception of raising children with ADHD is that parents are inexhaustible and readily available. With so much to consider and so much to learn, any spare time is heaven sent. And to take advantage of such, child disability tax credit is nothing short of cloud nine.

profile of Shiyi Zhang

Shye is a Content Writer for Disability Credit Canada. Shye has worked with dynamic editorial teams, advertised for small businesses and polished academic essays. She identifies as a member of the Deaf community and is lucky enough to initiate conversations about accessibility and workplace prejudice. You can also connect with her through Twitter.

I got really excited when Disability Credit Canada reached out to me for a guest post on this topic. I know this topic will help families with the struggles that they are currently facing with parenting a child with ADHD and guiding them to help them reach their full potential. I really found this post very informative and enlightening. And I hope you did too.

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  • Wow, these are wonderful tips. Thank you!

    The How-to Guru

  • I love your point on “growing together.” As children grow, so do we!

  • so much great info. i remember as a child how unstable i was from adhd. thanks for sharing

  • Great tips! I have 2 with ADHD and rainy days can sometimes be stressful when they can’t get excess energy out.

  • Elizabeth Voyles

    Great info. I especially liked the part about consistency. That is so important.

  • Janel Berchielli

    Thank you for heading some light on a tough subject like this. My kids, while not dx with ADHD, certainly have their fair share of problems that to the outside eye might seem they are disrespectful brats. It is challenging for others to see how life really is for us special families!

  • Jocelyne Shults

    I seriously agree with the whole holistic practices this is so important to me now. I don’t have kids yet but I’m working my way there. So this is very helpful. -Jocelyne from resonatecreations.com

  • Stephenie White Gamache

    Wonderful guest post. It’s s topic I don’t know much about so I feel like I learned alot

  • Jennifer Vara

    Rainy days are tough for kids. This is great advice for any parent!

  • Amber Gossett

    As a former early childhood educator, I think this is a wonderful write up! I love seeing parents employ holistic practices!

  • Great tips! I love where she said a little rain can bring out the beautiful flower.

  • Bonnie Marrow

    Structure and routine are so important! Couldn’t agree more with this!

  • Ayanna

    These are great tips! I especially like the one about growing together. Kids love to do new and fun things with their parents.

  • Carolyn

    Some great ideas. I can see how rewards work better than punishments even for my non- ADHD kids.

  • This was a very lovely post, and one I am sure so many parents can benefit from. My nephew was diagnosed young and I know it was hard on my sister for a while.

  • Meredith

    This is an awesome post with some great tips!

  • Elizabeth Brico

    Hmm I was a bit confused actually, I think for me the metaphor got in the way of my comprehension. Is it possible to outline the tips in a really straightforward manner, maybe just a few quick bullet points? I don’t want to take up too much of your time, but, while my older two kids haven’t been officially diagnosed with ADHD or ADD, but they both exhibit some hyperactivity and it can be overwhelming sometimes. I can certainly benefit from some tips from someone who’s been there!

  • I think these tips can benefit all kids, not even just adhd-awesome writing!

  • Babies to Bookworms

    These are great tips!

  • Debra Hawkins

    One thing I’ve learned is that I am his best advocate and his only advocate. This is great article.

    • Exactly! No one knows your child better than you, and as he grows up in wondrous ways the louder and prouder parents must be to match their brilliance!

  • momtrends

    Fantastic tips. Sharing the world at their pace sounds like a wonderful plan.

  • Tina

    I have friends who struggle with their child’s ADHD on a daily basis. I can see their discomfort in public when they handle a situation differently than they ever thought they would with their child. Not only are these great tips, but it is an eye opener for those on the outside.

    • Your proactive approach to understanding your friends deserves a round of applause! ADHD is a highly stigmatized disability – for the child and parent – and although it takes some time to realize the complexity of the condition, acknowledging it is a step many are too lazy to take. Your empathy is surely appreciated!

  • Very good tips. I have an older child with ADHD and it’s definitely a challenge. Especially as a single mom!

  • Lynn

    These are great even for kids who haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD. Thanks for sharing!

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  • Patrice Walker

    These are excellent suggestions for all parents when the weather doesn’t allow for outdoor activities, but I love your understanding of the needs for those with ADHD diagnosed children.

    • Thank you Patrice! A little rain is just requires a little change in perspective. I find indoor days to be the best for exploring different approaches – often with surprising results!

  • Shelly

    I agree that so much of this is the parents adapting, too. So many times I see in retrospect how I could make things easier if “I” would do the changing!

    • Growing as a family is the true key to success – after all, you’re all on the same team!

  • These are some great suggestions on not only how to support a child with ADHD, but some great suggestions for all parents. As a parent, it is so very important to nurture your child’s strengths no matter what they may be.

    • Couldn’t agree more! Nurturing their strengths beats disciplining their flaws any day!

  • Such great suggestions! I am a teacher and work with a lot of kids with ADHD

  • Corey Wheeland

    Awesome ideas – even for kiddos who don’t have ADHD!

    • Thinking outside the box often yields the best results – the power of creativity and determination should never be underestimated!

  • Jeanine @ sixtimemommy.com

    Great ideas! These are interesting and good to know. Even for those without ADHD. This will be helpful to so many!

  • Tabitha Shakespeare

    Love that you brought in a guest writer! Such a great insight into the lives of ADHD parents!

  • Karina Pacheco

    Loved reading this post ❤️ The suggestions are really great for all parents and kids that don’t have ADHD

    • Shye Zhang

      I’m happy you found them helpful! Sometimes the smallest change can make the greatest impact!

  • Becca Wilson

    These are such great tips! It can definitely be hard to keep children with ADHD entertained when they can not be outside playing.

  • Veronika

    Loved reading this, you have such great ideas and tips!

  • Wow what an interesting read! I really dont know too many people who have kids with ADHD but I have heard how challenging it can be. Seems like the writer is very strong and found some way to manage it!

  • These are great suggestions for kids of all types! I definitely think that sometimes all kids can get overwhelmed, and we just need to be able to show them love. Great read!

  • CourtneyLynne Storms

    What great suggestions!!!! My daughter has autism. She’s super high functioning so a lot of the same ways ADHD patents deal with their kiddos is the same for people like me

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